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Positive Discipline: Teaching Children Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation& Problem-Solving

Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.

For twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you’ll discover how to

• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior

“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!


Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens

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Parent and Teen Teamed for Success

Ronald John Zirker

When Ron Zirker spanked his two-year old son, Steven put his hands on his hips and said, "I'm going to tell Father on you!" Ron said, "But Steven, I am your father." Steven replied, "No sir. You're my dad. I'm going to tell Father on you."

Thus began Ron's search for ways to become the kind of parent the Father of us all expects us to be.

In Parent and Teen: Teamed for Success, Ron Zirker shares his experiences in rearing children and his methods for helping teens reach their full potential. He explains how parents can help their teenagers-

  • avoid pitfalls on the road to success
  • rely on the power of prayer
  • develop a love for the scriptures
  • make wise dating decisions
  • achieve excellence in their lives

Ronald John Zirker is a school psychologist in Mesa, Arizona. He and his wife, Sherri, are the parents of five children and the foster parents to seventeen others.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens

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Attitude 101

John C. Maxwell

Attitude can make or break you and the people you lead.

Good attitudes on a team do not guarantee its success, but bad attitudes guarantee its ruin. So says New York Times best-selling author and leadership expert John C. Maxwell in this highly practical primer, Attitude 101. Anyone who has tried to lead people with bad attitudes knows the frustration it can bring.

With this concise and reader-friendly guidebook, you can master attitude issues. Learn to:

Recognize how individuals' attitudes impact their performance
Pinpoint problem feelings, behaviors, and thinking in yourself and others
Identify six common attitude problems that undermine teamwork
Discover the secret to changing a bad attitude
Create new definititons of failure and success that will improve performance
Adopt the attitude that helps a leader keep going to the next level

Attitude is contagious!

You want to make sure your team is catching the right one!

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens, School Challenges

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Heart of a Leader, The

Ken Blanchard

Ken Blanchard is one of America's best-known leadership and business experts. And now he helps you understand and experience the art of influence by revealing the greatest life and leadership lessons he's learned in his rich career as an educator and business leader.

The Heart of a Leader offers Blanchard's insight and wisdom on:

Choosing values
Aiming for excellence
Maintaining integrity
Finding the courage to change
Helping others reach their potential
And much more

Arranged with your busy schedule in mind, this book offers you Blanchard's most important concepts in an accessible format. You can reach for instant motivation and insight on a daily basis or soak it up in one reading.

Powerfully challenging and deeply inspiring, The Heart of a Leader will enable you to develop the courageous heart of a true leader. master key attitudes and actions to impact lives around you. and enjoy the profound wisdom that only Ken Blanchard can deliver.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens, School Challenges, General Adoption, Growing Up Adopted, Openness in Adoption

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First Things First

Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill, Rebecca R. Merrill

I'm getting more done in less time, but where are the rich relationships, the inner peace, the balance, the confidence that I'm doing what matters most and doing it well?

Does this nagging question haunt you, even when you feel you are being your most efficient? If so, First Things First can help you understand why so often our first things aren't first. Rather than offering you another clock, First Things First provides you with a compass, because where you're headed is more important than how fast you're going.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens, School Challenges, General Adoption, Professionals, Adoption Issues

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8th Habit, The

Stephen R. Covey

From Stephen R. Covey comes a profound, compelling, and groundbreaking book of next-level thinking that gives a clear way to finally tap the limitless value-creation promise of the “Knowledge Worker Age.”
In the more than twenty-five years since its publication, the classic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has become an international phenomenon with more than twenty-five million copies sold. Tens of millions of people in business, government, schools, and families, and, most importantly, as individuals, have dramatically improved their lives and organizations by applying the principles of Stephen R. Covey’s classic book. The world, however, is a vastly changed place. Being effective as individuals and organizations is no longer merely an option—survival in today’s world requires it. But in order to thrive, innovate, excel, and lead in what Covey calls the “New Knowledge Worker Age,” we must build on and move beyond effectiveness. The call of this new era in human history is for greatness; it’s for fulfillment, passionate execution, and significant contribution.
Accessing the higher levels of human genius and motivation in today’s new reality requires a change in thinking: a new mindset, a new skill-set, a new tool-set—in short, a whole new habit. The crucial challenge of our world today is this: to find our voice and inspire others to find theirs. It is what Covey calls the 8th Habit. So many people feel frustrated, discouraged, unappreciated, and undervalued—with little or no sense of voice or unique contribution. The 8th Habit is the answer to the soul’s yearning for greatness, the organization’s imperative for significance and superior results, and humanity’s search for its “voice.”
Covey’s new book will transform the way we think about ourselves, our purpose in life, our organizations, and about humankind. Just as The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People helped us focus on effectiveness, The 8th Habit shows us the way to greatness.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens, School Challenges, Professionals, Adoption Issues

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Facing Up to Facebook: A Survival Guide for Adoptive Families

Eileen Fursland

Facing up to Facebook examines the challenges faced by all parties involved in contact after adoption and looks at how adoptive parents can help children satisfy their need to know about their birth families whilst minimising potential risks to their security and stability. Fully revised and updated to reflect advances in technology and changes to applications and privacy settings, it looks at the pressing questions facing adoptive parents and practitioners, provides a wealth of information and offers valuable advice.

Case studies enable readers to share others’ experiences and reveal the potential and significant risks that some people have experienced and how they have managed these. Facing up to Facebook is essential reading for all those affected by the new reality of adoption in the age of social networking.

Parenting, Discipline, Parenting Teens, General Adoption, Domestic Adoption, Foster Care Adoption, Growing Up Adopted, International Adoption, Openness in Adoption, Relative Adoption, Search and Reunion

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

Amir Levine, MD, and Rachel S.F. Heller, MA

We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

Parenting, Discipline, General Adoption, Growing Up Adopted, Children with Special Needs, Attachment, Professionals, Adoption Issues

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Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal

Donna Jackson Nakazawa

A groundbreaking book showing the link between Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and adult illnesses such as heart disease, autoimmune disease, and cancer—Childhood Disrupted also explains how to cope with these emotional traumas and even heal from them.

Your biography becomes your biology. The emotional trauma we suffer as children not only shapes our emotional lives as adults, it also affects our physical health, longevity, and overall wellbeing. Scientists now know on a bio-chemical level exactly how parents’ chronic fights, divorce, death in the family, being bullied or hazed, and growing up with a hypercritical, alcoholic, or mentally ill parent can leave permanent, physical “fingerprints” on our brains.

When we as children encounter sudden or chronic adversity, excessive stress hormones cause powerful changes in the body, altering our body chemistry. The developing immune system and brain react to this chemical barrage by permanently resetting our stress response to “high,” which in turn can have a devastating impact on our mental and physical health.

Donna Jackson Nakazawa shares stories from people who have recognized and overcome their adverse experiences, shows why some children are more immune to stress than others, and explains why women are at particular risk. Groundbreaking in its research, inspiring in its clarity, Childhood Disrupted explains how you can reset your biology—and help your loved ones find ways to heal.

Parenting, Discipline, Children with Special Needs, Attachment, Trauma & Brain Development, Professionals, Adoption Issues, Effects of Trauma

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